- Ephesians 4:32
Kindness is the act of being useful to another. It means doing what is best for another. There is in being kind the intent of giving what another needs rather than what he or she wants. Kindness does what is best despite what another deserves. Therefore, the attribute must be at the fore front of the marriage relationship.
When one is tender-hearted, one sympathizes with another. Tender-heartedness is the characteristic of being full of pity for another’s feelings. One can be sympathetic without having gone through the same experience as another. It is caring for the sake of caring.
People are unique. We do not always react similarly to similar situations. Husbands and wives must be mindful of the feelings and emotions of their spouse. This mindfulness must be a part of the marriage relationship whether or not experiential understanding exists.
Forgiveness Forgiveness is the legal releasing of charges against another. This release is based upon a fulfillment of justice. In other words, forgiveness does not simply release a guilty person apart from a payment for his or her guilt.
God forgives offense based upon the work of Christ. The sacrifice of Jesus fulfills or pays the price required by God’s justice. As a result, God offers a release from sin because Jesus paid the price for our freedom. Furthermore, because Christ paid for all sin, forgiveness is now freely available between human beings.
This is why Paul tells the believers at Ephesus to forgive one another. Since God’s justice is satisfied through Christ, we are able to forgive one who sins against us.
Christ’s sacrifice was so complete that God is able to forgive all sin for all time. Therefore, the severity or quantity of sinful acts bears no affect upon God’s forgiveness. As a consequence, God’s forgiveness is free and inexhaustible.  Forgiveness between human beings is the same. Since the union of man and woman is an illustration of Christ and His redeemed people, forgiveness in marriage must exist.
- Pastor Randy
The access to God’s free and inexhaustible forgiveness is only available while living in this present life.
 Forgiveness is always an option no matter the severity or quantity of offense. Forgiveness always seeks for restoration of relationship and as such is acceptable to be accompanied by requests of trust and accountability from the one offended.